When is Shame not Shameful? (Written by my wife)

When is shame not shameful? (Written by my Wife)

I started a new job June 3 that is approximately thirty minutes from home. The drive is a bit tedious, but to make the time to faster I switch back and forth between two Christian radio stations. My intent is not to insult these stations so I will not name them specifically; one is a national station and the other local.

When we lived in Cascade (we moved 2 1/2 months ago), we were limited to radio stations, so it has been four and half years since I have listened to music other than on CD. I am not surprised to hear the constant grace message (if you read my blog, you know how I feel about the false eternal security message), but I am surprised to hear the trend of music take this grace message even farther out of bounds by saying that feeling shame is wrong. Whether this is a new theme or one that has been around for a while, I cannot say.

Before I go on, I want to make it clear that there are levels of shame I believe one needs not to feel. If you are a victim of any form of abuse and feel as if it is (or was) your fault and you feel shame over what your attacker did to you, please seek help and know you are not at fault (family member or not). Plead the blood of Jesus over your heart and pray you heal from feeling shame as a victim.

The type of shame that I believe the singers are trying to insist is wrong, is when we feel shame over our sins...

I have to pause for a moment. While I am writing this I switched over to https://www.biblegateway.com/ to search scriptures for this blog, and, wow, this just happened to be the verse of the day :
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? I the Lord search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings. Jeremiah 17:9-10 KJV
Fits in nicely with this theme. Anyway, what I was going to write was that the artists like to quote Romans 8:1, but what they all fail to do is finish the verse. What you are used to hearing is:
There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus...
However, it goes on to say is:
...who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
In other words, there is no condemnation (shame) for our actions WHEN we walk in the Spirit instead of in the flesh of sin. How many of you knew this verse had 10 extra words? In fact, as I searched images for this blog and typed, "Romans 8:1 images," 50% of the images left out the last 10 words! Preachers (and singers) want you to believe you do not have to ever feel shame if you call yourself a Christian. From now on, please remember the rest of Romans 8:1 and that, yes, there is condemnation when we walk in fleshly sins. In fact, read verses 2-16 as well. I know it's long, but carefully read over all the words and let the message sink in. Romans 8:1-16 is posted at the end of this blog.
The Bible tells us to examine ourselves daily (read also Psalm 139):
Examine yourselves as to whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Do you not know yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you are disqualified. II Corinthians 13:5
Then He said to them all, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me. Luke 9:23
Taking up your cross daily and denying yourself means to lay down your sins. In order to know what sins we must lay down, we must listen to our conscience, which, yes, can be called shame. When you feel no shame or remorse, you are basically saying you have not sinned.

If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us. I John 1:8-10

And, yes, absolutely check out verse 9 above. Jesus is full of grace when we confess our sins.

As I mentioned at the beginning there are forms of shame that are unhealthy. There are forms of shame that are from the devil. When you have repented from your sins and have true remorse and are working hard at not repeating the same mistakes, you should not feel guilt over your past. I do agree that the devil wants to inflict unnecessary shame upon the past you have overcome. When this happens, rebuke Satan in the name of Jesus Christ and remind yourself that Jesus forgave you when you repented, and that you are doing your best to never repeat your sins.

Then I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, “Now salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of His Christ have come, for the accuser of our brethren, who accused them before our God day and night, has been cast down. And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death. Revelation 12:10-11

Satan wants to accuse us day and night, but when we have overcome our sins by the blood of Jesus, then we need not feel shame. Again, remember, when you confess your sins, Jesus will forgive you. However, do not use the true grace of Jesus as an excuse not to feel shame or as an excuse to sin.

True shame is not shameful when we feel remorse for sins we refuse to let go. When we say, "I feel bad I am addicted to porn," or "I feel shame that I have cheated on my spouse," or "I feel guilty for stealing, taking, drugs, cheating," etc., then this type of shame is very good for your spiritual health. That is the Holy Spirit speaking to your conscience, prompting you to repent and give up your sinful ways.

I could probably go on a little longer on this subject, but instead, as promised, here is Romans 8:1-16. Please read these verses carefully and see how a life lived in the flesh will cause shame, but when you chose to do your very best to walk down paths of righteousness (holy living), then and only then, will there be no condemnation.

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh: That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God. But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his. And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness. But if the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwelleth in you. Therefore, brethren, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live after the flesh. For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. The Spirit itself bears witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God. Romans 8:1-16